Last Saturday I randomly found myself alone with a day to myself in Atlanta, GA. I felt grateful, in the midst of a busy spring, I was able to do a favorite activity – walking a big city, earbuds in, and some dedicated thinking and dreaming time.
I set my mind to what I wanted this year and moving forward in my life. I was thinking about all the things I am happy with in my life, and assessing places where I wanted change. As I thought about those things that I was not happy with, a phrase kept coming to me – I want to live an uncompromised life.
Now, that’s not to say that compromise isn’t a useful skill in navigating the world, however, I realized what was bothering me, was where I had allowed myself to bend on key principles. To not stick to my guns on those things that are the most important to me.
Since returning home, I have been journaling about this, and thought I would share my process.
What’s my ideal life? What is my ideal destination, my Shangri-la life? (I’m still working on this one)….but I’ve currently got about 10 pages of what my dreams life consists of.
I am also writing about where I am now. What’s my current life? I feel so, so, so lucky to be living my dream, I make a living dancing – I get to spend hours a week with amazing kids. I am lucky. But, I also wrote about what I am not happy with. I’ve had my fair share of heartbreak, I would like to cultivate better relationships, etc.
What are my anchors? Then I have begun to compare the two, and figure out what the roadmap is between where I am now and where I want to be. What I’ve noticed as I map out the road from my current location to where I want to go is that if I had been able to identify guiding principles, things that I will not sway from – I would be closer to what I want.
-don’t give my skills/services away for free/cheap
-two strikes if you don’t treat me well
-support other women
-don’t let fear make your decisions for you