Imagine that you walk into a party. You have a friend who is out of town, and they asked you to send pictures of the fun you are having at the party.
When you walk in there is a large crowd of people laughing and having fun. They turn as you come in and smile with excitement. In the back corner of the room there are two people who have excluded themselves from the fun. They are sitting among empty chairs frowning with their arms crossed.
If you took your camera and focused on the two upset people you'd be telling your friend a very different story than if you focused on the large group of people having fun in front of you.
LIFE IS JUST LIKE THIS PARTY.
WHATEVER WE FOCUS ON BECOMES OUR REALITY.
In 1914, Thomas Edison was 67. His life's work was in his labratory. That labratory burned down. At the scene everyone was shocked because he was excited. Edison was quoted in The New York Times as saying, "I'm so excited, what an opportunity, I'll start all over again tomorrow." He continued his work without losing any employees. HE FOCUSED ON THE OPPORTUNITY IN THE SITUATION.
Maggie, one of my clients, desperately wanted to be in a relationship. She went on several dates a week but there was something just a little off about everyone. She was so distraught. She would go on dates FOCUSING on what could possibly go wrong. We worked on mindset, changed her focus. She started looking for what she wanted and found Mr. Right.